The other day I was helping a student prepare for an interview. She was nervous and not feeling confident about herself. So, I tried to think of ways to boost her confidence. We talked about her resume, discussing each and every point on it, to show that she has a lot to offer an employer. Then, I brought up all the things she’s learned in class and how’s she’s grown since the first day I met her. It hit the mark, but only slightly.
I paused and thought about what helps me feel confident. Sometimes it’s a particular outfit gives an extra boost, but sometimes you’re just not feeling great about yourself. I dug deeper and realized that I often wear a piece of jewelry, which was given to me by someone I love. Wearing it, be it a necklace or ring or a bracelet or whatever, unconsciously channels their love for me and that object becomes a silent cheerleader.
It is like a secret that only you know about and you wear that cherished gift with a secret smile. No one else understands, or needs to for that matter, its significance. I offered this advice to her and she jumped on it. I could see the change in her demeanor as her face lit up and she smiled that smile.
What’s the secret smile in your arsenal?